If your love is lust you can’t find a Soul-mate
Man has seven centers.The lowest is the sex center and the highest is the samadhi center,And between these two there are five more centers. It is a ladder.When all the seven centers of a man are in tune and in harmony with all the seven centers of a woman,then you have found your soulmate. It has happened with Krishna and Radha, with Shiva and Shakti.It could have also happened to Majnu and Laila,if they had been allowed to meet,to Shiri and Farihad, if they had been allowed to meet;but the society hindered them.Whenever it happens, absolute oneness is felt: unity, not union…Two persons utterly disappear into each other;There is not even a small, thin screen dividing them;There is no division at all.It is unio mystica. Two persons function as if they are one person;two bodies, but one soul.It is absolute harmony.It is love at its peak.No meditation is needed – this love is enough..Gandarva Vivah or living relationship becomes authentic when you have attained Samadhi. You do not require any certificate or vows to force yourself to be loyal to someone because the soul unite as one and is inseparable.Many people these days misuse living relationship for lust or saving house rent money.
Below it, there is another meeting: six centers meeting.That too is rare.If the first is one percent, the second is only two percent.It is union, not unity.It is not a cosmic, mystical union, but still Something very close to it.An aesthetic union, an artistic phenomenon, a poetic experience.The first can be understood only by those who have known samadhi, satori…The second can be understood by poets, painters, dancers, musicians..
The third, lower than that, is the meeting of five centers.It is three percent possibility.It is not even union; it is duality.Two persons remain two, but still there is great harmony.The two function in harmony,As if two musical instruments are playing in harmony.The two remain two.There is no union, there is no unity.They are separate.This is what Kahlil Gibran has described:”Lovers should be like two pillars of a temple supporting the same roof, yet apart and separate.”This is a little lower than the aesthetic, artistic, musical experience.It is a moral experience – chaste,Still beautiful.
The fourth is four centers meeting.It has a four percent possibility. Duality.Harmony has disappeared, but there is great understanding still …Great understanding about each other,Great caring about each other.There is no spontaneous harmony,But out of understanding a certain rhythm is maintained.
Then there is the fifth: three centers meeting.Five percent possibility.Duality becomes more and more emphasized.Understanding is still there, but not constant -Flickering, shaky -Once in a while a conflict arises, but it is not disruptive of love.On the contrary, it adds to it,Makes it a little more spicy.
Below it is two centers meeting:Six percent possibility.Great duality, clear cut duality.Moments, only moments of understanding.And conflict comes too much.It is almost fifty fifty:Fifty percent understanding, fifty percent conflict.It is a physiological experience.Still a great balance is there, because of this fifty percent understanding, fifty percent conflict.
And below it is the one center meeting:Seven percent possibility;Too much conflict.Rare moments of joy, very rare.Once in a while, few and far between.But still worth it!It is a sexual experience.
But in the East we have developed a science:If you cannot find a soulmate, you can create one.And that science is Tantra.To find a soul-mate means to find a person With whom all your seven centers meet naturally.A Krishna and a Radha,A Shiva and a Shakti. And when it happens, it is tremendously beautiful.But it is like lightning -You cannot depend on it.If you want to read your bible,You cannot depend on it,That when the lightning is there, you will read.The lightning is a natural phenomenon, but undependable.
Hence Tantra was created.Tantra is a scientific approach.Tantra is alchemy:It can transform your centers,It can transform the other’s centers.It can create a rhythm and a harmony Between you and your beloved.That is the beauty of Tantra.
It is like bringing electricity into your house.Then you can turn it on and off whenever you want.
These seven centers, these seven charkas,Yoga and Tantra have talked about down the ages,
Right now you are at the lowest where not even a single center is meeting.It is impossible if you depend on nature.It is very very possible if you depend on Tantra.